SEXUALITY AND INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS
CHAPTER OUTLINE
Human sexuality refers to the feelings, thoughts and behaviors of humans, who have learned a set of cues that evoke a sexual or an erotic response (the term "sex" refers to a person's genetic makeup only). Humans are sexual beings and a large portion of our life is devoted to sexual activity (i.e., sexual daydreaming and fantasy). All societies have a set of rules or codes that define appropriate sexual behavior. However, sexual ideas and behavior change according to cyclical patterns. There are many variations in sexual attitudes and behavior that coexist during any particular historical period.
Ancient tradition placed great value on marriage and reproduction. The norm of premarital chastity was more rigidly applied to women than men (a woman who was not a virgin when she married could be killed). Male dominance was the order of the day.
The early tradition was most influenced by St. Paul, who was opposed to sex, either inside or outside marriage. In the middle ages the "missionary position" was the only acceptable position for intercourse because it was the least likely to allow enjoyment. The Protestant Reformation of the sixteenth century ushered in new views on sexuality (Martin Luther renounced celibacy). During most historical periods, sexual behavior varied according to social class, with the middle classes adhering most to the norms.
The first era (1900 to early 1950s) saw an increase in sexual activity outside marriage. The second era (1950s to 1970s) was characterized by greater sexual permissiveness outside marriage especially if sex occurred within a love relationship leading to marriage. The third era (since 1970) has seen a decreasing emphasis on the nuclear family and an increasing view that sex can be recreational.
Anthropologists have long shown that human sexuality is defined and learned within a cultural context. However, Freud and Kinsey believed that human sexuality is biologically determined by innate drives, which society insists must be repressed or appropriately channeled. The prevailing view is that sexual behavior is learned and then guided by "sexual scripts" that are learned during the socialization process.
In earliest childhood, as we are learning other important norms of our culture, we are also learning about our sexuality from significant others and later from generalized others.
Involve not only whom one chooses as a sexual partner, but also the ways in which one understands and identifies oneself. Sexual desire is constructed in the context of social relationships and identities. American culture has espoused heterosexism to the extent that most sex research is based on the assumption of heterosexuality although there are many practicing homosexuals.
Refers to the preference for sexual activities with a person of the opposite sex. At least 90 percent of Americans identify themselves as heterosexual. Feminists argue that American's views are phallocentric and reflect the notion that women exist for men. Adrienne Rich argues that heterosexism and homophobia inhibit the possibility of some men and women finding sexual satisfaction with same-sexed partners.
Refers to both identity and behavior. The exact determination of homosexuality is unknown. The nature-nurture debate continues to spark controversy. Some recent research tends to support the biological explanation.
The concept is difficult to define (with respect to identity and lifestyle) and enumerate (estimates are that from 10-25 percent of adults are bisexual). As with other sexual orientations, the exact origins of bisexuality are unknown. However, some evidence suggests differences between men and women in their perceptions of their bisexuality.
Although sex surveys tell us much about what people do, how they do it, and how often, such surveys tell us very little about what goes on in our bodies when we are sexually stimulated.
Masters and Johnson clarified the physiological process of sexual response in human beings. According to Masters and Johnson we go through four stages in erotic arousal:
Human sexual expression covers a wide variety of behaviors.
Until recently, United States society placed particularly heavy restrictions on autoeroticism.
Interpersonal sexual activity involves more people acting in concert for the purpose of giving each other pleasure.
There is little difference in homosexual and heterosexual sexual expression and physiological response. Lesbians are more emotionally involved with their partners and are more likely to connect sex with love than are gays. Gays tend to have sex with more partners and in shorter-term relationships.
Sexual behavior for most people begins earlier and lasts longer over the life cycle today than at any other period in United States history.
The incidence of intercourse among singles has increased considerably over the last several decades. In addition, gender is no longer a distinguishing factor in unmarried sexual behavior. More adolescents are having intercourse at younger ages. The majority of nonmarried intercourse among adolescents, as well as among adults, occurs within an affectionate, serious, and steady relationship.
Most marriages today have moved toward greater variety in sexual behavior, more frequent intercourse, and higher levels of sexual satisfaction. In general, when couples define their sexual activities as satisfying, they also define their overall relationship as satisfying.
Research indicates that since the 1950s the incidence of extramarital relationships has increased substantially. Most wives who had extramarital affairs indicated that they were dissatisfied with some aspect of their marriage, while husbands indicated the sexual excitement of the affair was the reason for their extramarital affair. Extramarital relationships can range from one-night affairs to a lifelong relationship.
As divorce and separation rates have increased and a growing number of widowed people are living into old age with a partner, a larger number of adults than in the past are confronted with the task of adjusting to postmarital life.
People who are healthy and happy with their lives can continue to be sexually active well into their advanced years. Survey research demonstrates that while sexual activity may decline with age, a significant proportion of elderly people, including those in nursing homes, remain sexually active.
Sexual discord or maladjustment of some sort is widespread in the United States. The majority of cases are the result of social-psychological factors that interfere with or impair people's ability to respond as ordinarily expected to sexual stimuli.
Sexually transmitted diseases (STDS) are fairly common in today's society. Such diseases can be caused by viruses (AIDS, herpes, hepatitis B, and genital warts), bacteria (syphilis, gonorrhea, and chlamydial infections), and tiny insects or parasites (pubic lice).
Experts estimate that approximately 1.5 million people in the United States are infected with the Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) which is believed to be the main cause of AIDS. Between 10 and 30 percent of those people will develop AIDS. AIDS is a viral syndrome, or group of diseases, that destroys the body's immune system. Currently, there is no cure for AIDS. Of the more than 665,357 people in this country diagnosed with AIDS, 401,028 have already died.
AIDS is transmitted via blood and body fluids, such as semen, saliva, vaginal and cervical secretions, urine, tears, and breast milk. Although AIDS can be transmitted through the use of an infected needle or syringe, the most common means of transmission is through sexual contact. According to current evidence, HIV cannot be transmitted by casual contact. People may have the HIV virus without knowing it. Most people infected with HIV develop antibodies within 6 months of exposure (which show up on a special blood test).
84 percent of adult AIDS cases in the U.S. are men; 75 percent are gay men. Incidence of heterosexual transmission has risen from 1 to 10 percent.
AIDS is now among the top ten causes of death among women. Recent research indicates that women are more likely than twice as likely as men to become infected with the HIV virus. Early symptoms of the HIV infection are similar to those found in males. In addition, women show special symptoms. Women tend to die sooner after the diagnosis of AIDS. This may be related to the fact that women are diagnosed later than men
Today AIDS is a leading cause of death in children under the age of five. Most contract the disease from their mothers before, during, or after birth. The majority of cases are found in poor, urban, inner-city neighborhoods.
The World Health Organization estimates that 30.6 million people are currently living with the HIV/AIDS virus in more than 74 countries, the vast majority in Asia and Africa. Geographic boundaries cannot protect against HIV. Many governments, constrained by a lack of resources, continue to avoid the reality of the HIV/AIDS pandemic.
A campaign for "safe sex" is geared toward informing people of how to protect themselves from AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases through abstinence or by engaging in responsible sex. Some critics of safe sex contend that the premise of safe sex promotes sexual promiscuity and does little to promote abstinence. They argue that abstinence, not safe sex, should be the official public policy. Experts are uncertain whether sexual behavior is changing as a direct result of the increasing risks associated with AIDS.
LEARNING OBJECTIVES
After reading Chapter Six, students should be able to:
KEY TERMS
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human sexuality sexual double standard sexual script significant others generalized others bisexuality erotic arousal erogenous zone orgasm ejaculation pleasuring petting cunnilingus fellatio coitus |
sexual orientation heterosexism heterosexuality homophobia homosexuality refractory period autoeroticism masturbation nocturnal emissions wet dreams menopause sexual dysfunction sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) safe sex |
TEACHING SUGGESTIONS/DISCUSSION QUESTIONS/CLASS EXERCISES
FILMS AND VIDEOS
Understanding Sex, 1998, 51 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). In this program, narrated by Candice Bergen, an evolutionary biologist, a botanist, a psychobiologist, zoologists, and doctors probe the subject of plant, animal, and human sexuality. Vivid computer imagery compliments the program.Sociology of Sexuality, 1995, 10 segments, 45 min. each (Insight Media). This series explores sexuality, love, gender roles, and sexual orientation. Hosted by University of Pennsylvania professor and sex researcher Paul Root Wolpe, each presentation examines different aspects of sexual attitudes and behaviors, including the concept of "deviant" sexuality.
Chasing Amy, 1997, 105 min. (Feature Film: Miramax, Rated R). There is demonstrated pedagogical utility of commercial films. Chasing Amy provides an excellent opportunity to discuss sexuality, sexual orientation, etc. You may wish to consult a complete review of this film, including suggestions for its use in Teaching Sociology, 26, (July): 238-242.
"Love and Sex"--Phil Donahue's THE HUMAN ANIMAL, 1987, 52 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). Falling in love, having sex, making babies-these are easy. But understanding human sexuality is much more difficult. This program visits a male strip club, a gay rights march, a teenage mother giving birth, and a classroom where teachers and parents are trying to help teenagers come to grips with their sexual selves.
Hormones, 1992, 28 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This program examines the nature and role of hormones in sexual development.
The Female, 1992, 28 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This program is devoted to the healthy female body and its normal functions; it covers sexual development and relates the changes that take place in the female life cycle with brain functions: menstruation, coitus, pregnancy, menopause.
Embracing Our Sexuality: Women Talk About Sex, 1995, 40 min. (New Day Films). This is a compelling look into the conversations of nine women, ranging in age from their 20s to their 70s, and come from different backgrounds and sexual orientation, who gather together for a weekend retreat to talk about sexuality. Topics range from sexual orientation to sexual satisfaction, to the effects of sexual abuse.
The Male, 1992, 28 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This program is devoted to the healthy male body and its normal functions; it covers the hormones for developing male sex characteristics and sexual behavior, how semen is produced, and traces these changes from puberty through the male life cycle.
Finding Our Way: Men Talk About Their Sexuality, 1995, 40 min. (New Day Films). This is a companion to Embracing Our Sexuality; in it, a group of ten men ranging in age from twenty-seven to seventy-one and reflecting varied backgrounds and sexual orientation, come together at a weekend retreat to talk about sexual issues. This program will be especially helpful in encouraging men to be less fearful of intimacy with other men and encourages both men and women to be more open about their sexuality.
Teen Sex: The Chastity Crusade, 1996, 27 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This program looks at two different approaches to the issue of sex education and discusses the merits of each. On one side are those who are teaching chastity and prohibiting discussions of safe sex and birth control-an approach that has been adopted by some school boards. In sharp contrast, a more liberal approach is being taken by those teaching the pros and cons of contraception.
Teen Sexuality in a Culture of Confusion, 1995, 40 min. (Media Education Foundation). This documentary features eight diverse young people, age 16-24, who talk about the forces in their lives that influence how they make decisions about sex; two of the eight talk about living with AIDS. This presentation addresses how the popular culture portrays sexuality, gender and beauty, how teens decide when and whether to have premarital sex, and how some teenagers develop a fear of intimacy because sex is regularly associated with danger and disease.
Sex and Marriage, 1994, 30 min. (Insight Media). This program examines widely varying customs relating to sex and marriage across different cultures. It focuses on the unique traditions of particular societies, explaining that marriage customs are often developed for economic reasons.
Sexuality and Aging, 1987, 60 min. (Insight Media). Exploring attitudes, myths, and facts, this program examines ongoing research on sexuality in the later years of life. It investigates physiological changes affecting sexuality through interviews with gerontologists, sex researchers, and sex educators, as well as with elderly men and women, revealing attitudes that are not commonly expressed.
AIDS: The Changed Face of America, 1992, 52 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This presentation features Phil Donahue as host, exploring how dramatically AIDS has changed life in America today: from the dating scene and sexual practices to greater openness about homosexuality and more open attacks against people with alternative sexual orientations.
Living and Dying With AIDS, 1991, 77 min. (Films for the Humanities and Sciences). This is the life story of a once energetic man and the documentation of his final days as he dies of AIDS. The program puts real faces on a deadly epidemic that cuts across all populations.
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